DO YOU STRUGGLE TO RESPECT YOUR PARENTS?
DO YOU STRUGGLE TO RESPECT YOUR PARENTS? I have a theory that the 5th commandment: “Honor your Father and Your Mother…” is a crucial step towards personal freedom. Because it’s hard. BUT, when you can see your parents in their own stories with their own sufferings and as imperfect human beings, you open new possibilities […]
A TORAH TEACHING ABOUT PERSONAL JOURNEYS (PARSHAT MASEI)
A TORAH TEACHING ABOUT PERSONAL JOURNEYS (PARSHAT MASEI) “Eleh Masei” “These are travels/journeys” (my translation) is how Numbers 33:1 (Parshat Masei) begins. What follows is a list. Of places. Boring, right? Who wants to read a list? We want narrative. Story! We want what my 14 yr old daughter would call “the juice” or the […]
IT ONLY TAKES ONE MINUTE TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE
IT ONLY TAKES ONE MINUTE TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE “How?” You ask. With a mindful minute. What is mindfulness, really? It’s about body-ness. You’re in your mind, your work and cognitively thinking so much that you sometimes miss coordinating what’s going on with the rest of your body! Mindfulness is being aware of what your […]
IT DOESN’T HAVE TO BE THIS WAY
IT DOESN’T HAVE TO BE THIS WAY “That’s just how it is,” says my friend about his family. Is that what you believe about your family also? Or is it with work where you say, “Well, that’s life.” I get it. We don’t know it can be any different. For me, it was my husband […]
FROM POWERLESS TO EMPOWERED
FROM POWERLESS TO EMPOWERED One day when I was in fifth grade, I noticed that the teacher was being unusually unkind to my best friend at the time who was also the top student in the class. This friend was usually very well liked by all the teachers, so it was very unusual. The teacher […]
A DILEMMA
A DILEMMA Last spring when things were starting to open up in California, one of my clients had a dilemma. Two of his key employees did not feel so keen or so safe coming back to work. And the owners in the business, his parents, were impatient to reopen. He couldn’t figure out what to […]
HOW TO IMPROVE YOUR RELATIONSHIP
HOW TO IMPROVE YOUR RELATIONSHIP You know that relationship that you think can’t change? The one that doesn’t feel the way that it should? Where you have the same argument again and again? It’s so frustrating, right? You feel powerless to change it. No matter how you say things, the other person gets upset. Or […]
YOU CAN HAVE THE CONVERSATION YOURSELF!
YOU CAN HAVE THE CONVERSATION YOURSELF! Sometimes when someone hears about what I do, they get an idea of someone they know that I can help. Often those ideas are about people who they are close to – a spouse, sibling, child or best friend – who could really benefit from empathy, support and seeing […]
HOW DO I GET HIM TO LISTEN?
HOW DO I GET HIM TO LISTEN? I was having a conversation with a client today and as she connected with what she really wished she could say to someone important in her life , she realized she needed to have a difficult conversation. Knowing that I teach and talk about Difficult Conversations she asked, […]
HOW DO YOU NAVIGATE CHANGE?
HOW DO YOU NAVIGATE CHANGE? Are you ready to reclaim your power? Uncontrollable change is inevitable. Whether we can see it or not, change is always happening around us and within us. What is ALWAYS within our control is how we respond to the circumstances beyond our control. Think of a sailboat at sea. The […]
HOW TO CLOSE THE PERFORMANCE GAP
HOW TO CLOSE THE PERFORMANCE GAP Does it sometimes feel like your employees are lying down on the job? There are so many things that they could be doing to help your business! And, nothing you say or do seems to make a difference? It’s so frustrating, isn’t it?!! During Covid-19 times, the stakes are […]
IS IT A GIFT
IS IT A GIFT By Guest Blogger: Kathy Boyle President of Chapin Hill Family Advisors. We want the best for our children… As a first-generation business owner, you likely spent hours and hours of sweat, tears, frustration and exhaustion to grow your enterprise to where it is today. As parents, we want to help our […]
DO YOU RESIST APOLOGIZING?
DO YOU RESIST APOLOGIZING? “We can make a time for you on Monday, is that okay?” “No,” I answered, “but I don’t think I have a choice.” Yeah, I was THAT blunt (but, I said it nicely.) “No,” she agreed. This was at the eye glass store after I had waited days for an appointment. […]
WHY AM I ALWAYS ANXIOUS?
WHAT “I’M BORED” REALLY MEANS “I’m Bored” In the mouth of a child it can mean so many different things. Most of the time as adults, we interpret the phrase to mean “I don’t have anything to do.” Or, “what I’m doing doesn’t interest me.” What else could it mean? So much! For example, if […]
JUST DO IT ALREADY!
JUST DO IT ALREADY! Do you have that time when you said to yourself “Just go do IT already?” You probably said it to yourself because at some point someone said to you, “Just go do IT already.” Or they said “If you want to do IT, do IT! Stop talking about it” (Anybody else […]
WHY AM I ALWAYS ANXIOUS?
WHY AM I ALWAYS ANXIOUS? We are taught to see our value and self-worth through the eyes of others. As we receive messages praising, approving or criticizing, we form a sense of who we are from the response of those around us. Consequentially, we come to rely on people outside ourselves for messages that we […]
TAKE BACK YOUR POWER
TAKE BACK YOUR POWER Nobody can take away your power without your permission. They can demote you, judge you, shame you, shun you, fire you, or call you names, but you always, ALWAYS have a choice as to how you react and feel. When you feel disempowered it’s because someone has done something to put […]
WHY MINDFULNESS?
WHY MINDFULNESS? Why Mindfulness? Mindfulness is a big buzzword right now and can mean a lot of different things. I realize that I have been thinking of it in a few different ways and want to clarify why I share it as an important tool. Mindfulness is a tool that can help develop self-awareness. To […]
ACHIEVE OR REGRET? WHICH DO YOU CHOOSE.
It Doesn’t have to be This Way “That’s just how it is,” says my friend about his family. Is that what you believe about your family also? Or is it with work where you say, “Well, that’s life.” I get it. We don’t know it can be any different. For me, it was my husband […]
FINDING A VOICE
It Doesn’t have to be This Way “That’s just how it is,” says my friend about his family. Is that what you believe about your family also? Or is it with work where you say, “Well, that’s life.” I get it. We don’t know it can be any different. For me, it was my husband […]
