Read the text below giving yourself at least 5 seconds after each phrase to look back at the focus point you chose, relax your gaze and let the words sink into your full experience. To really feel a shift, let yourself read things slowly then repeat it in your body, letting each word resonate within yourself. (Each time you do this exercise, you will feel more of a shift).
(*You can do this exercise with other relationships as well. Perhaps you want to think about your team members, students, staff you supervise, anyone you lead.)
While you may be a great parent, you most likely don’t always feel that you behave like your ideal parent self. Pick a scene your not so proud of that routinely happens in your home or in your conversations with your child.
Now imagine how you’d like it to go. Move from seeing what happens, and what you don’t like about it, to seeing it as you would like it to be.
This may be quite challenging. We usually keep seeing what’s wrong and it takes time to imagine what something going well would look like. Keep trying.
Slow down the scene if you need to so that you can see and hear (imagining) the smaller moments.
Can you see your child’s face?
Can you see how she responds to you?
How are you feeling?
How are you making him feel?
How is she making you feel?
What do you do in this scene that embodies your values as a parent?
What do you want to bring from this memory into your relationship with your child today?
You can do this same exercise with your ideal self, your ideal work self, your ideal daughter, or wife self, etc.
Take a moment to write any thoughts, feelings or insights that you want to remember.