Even when you love your parents, they very often are the main source of conflict in your life! (Often those conflicts are disguised as your inner critic or judge.
So think about the significance of being told to respect your parents.
The very people who may have failed to protect you in some way, who may have hurt you deeply, who may have disappointed you, or who may drive you crazy, who set expectations you never feel that you can meet – or whatever else, are the very people that you are “commanded” to respect.
“That’s just how it is,” says my friend about his family. Is that what you believe about your family also? Or is it with work where you say, “Well, that’s life.” I get it. We don’t know it can be any different. For me,… Continue Reading “It doesn’t have to be this way”
Last spring when things were starting to open up in California, one of my clients had a dilemma. Two of his key employees did not feel so keen or so safe coming back to work. And the owners in the business, his parents, were… Continue Reading “A Dilemma”
Too often we believe that these relationships are stuck, and we wait, hope for the other person to change.
We want them to see how they are wrong, how they are hurting us so that they can change their behavior.
When someone makes you feel seen, heard and understood, you trust them and you invest in them. So how do you use this knowledge as a leader? I learned the power of the phrase, “I see” from a book on developing classroom community by… Continue Reading “Build Influence With This Simple Tool”