Sprout Life

Close up of sprouts (maybe beans) just an inch off the ground.
Photo by Francesco Gallarotti on Unsplash
What is the life energy that opens in a seed and moves up, pushing its way through the ground to find the light? What is the source of this driving energy?
Is it related to what keeps someone going despite the overwhelming challenges that they face?

How does a woman who couldn’t even lift herself out of a chair, stand or take a few steps on her own start to teach herself to eat and walk all over again? How does someone whose income disappeared get through each day and find resources to survive? How does someone who hits rock bottom, find the will to climb back up?

The person in the story might say, “I had no choice. I had to keep going. What else am I going to do?”

If there is “no choice” than what is it? Somehow despite feeling that one has reached a physical, mental, or health disaster point, something within can sprout new life prompting drive and perseverance. Could it be a similar energy to what pushes a sprout through the ground into the light?

Maybe just as the sun shines energy, there is an energy that moves through living beings, keeping us growing like a sprout.

Maybe the energy that moves through living beings is always there, always dynamic just not in ways that measure change. Perhaps a tree is not as still as it looks, nor is the image we see in the mirror that seems to be the same day after day. Maybe things that we perceive to be separate and apart, a tree, a person, an animal, are interconnected through the life energy that moves within and between us, or simply that it’s something we all have within us.

I wonder if we are so focused on our day to day problems that we miss noticing the energy that holds us up against gravity, moves us forward, keeps us wanting, yearning, and looking ahead. Instead we think hard about what we need to do, about our problems, about the things going wrong. Ultimately, the thoughts themselves about our problems become the biggest obstacles we face.

Our bodies know how to sense danger and react, they know to be hungry, to feel full, to fight colds and disease, how to feel love, how to feel happy and sad, how to keep moving, how to sleep. Our bodies will do all these things. Like the baby who wants to walk, like the sprout in the ground, our bodies connect to a system of energy that wants to keep going.

What if we could trust that system just a bit more, and let go of the need to feel fully responsible for everything that happens to us? To trust that our bodies have a deeper wisdom?

What if just as they know how to survive and heal in many situations, they can lead us towards positive solutions in our day to day experience?

Research shows that our minds and bodies are more connected than we have thought previously.

What if we could trust our own instincts?  How might that change the way we approach our next steps?
What might the freedom from control bring instead?


5 Free Mother’s Day Gifts for Yourself (whether or not you are or have a mother)

Catch a Smile: Build your positive emotions!

You know when someone smiles at you in such a way that you catch it and smile back without even thinking? That feeling of connection that lights you up? It can be sharing a funny story with the check out person at Trader Joe’s, getting together with a friend, or smiling at a neighbor on the street.

Creating moments of connection with another person creates what researcher Barbara Fredrickson calls “positive resonance” that can boost your positive emotions which contribute to your overall health and well being. “Under the influence of positive emotions, your sense of self actually expands to include others to greater degrees.”

Collect Hugs: Give yourself a big dose of Oxytocin!

One young woman has her arms around another. They lean into each other with their cheeks touching.

Oxytocin is also known as the “cuddle” or “love hormone.” It is a key player in establishing our attachments and bonds to other people, but it also has immediate benefits for hugging. It calms anxiety and stress, increases trust and connection. It’s what makes holding a baby and cuddling with someone we love so relaxing.

Do something playful, silly or funny!


According to the National Institute of Play, play relieves stress and builds resilience. “It generates optimism, seeks out novelty, makes perseverance fun, leads to mastery, gives the immune system a bounce, fosters empathy and promotes a sense of belonging and community.” So, you’re never too old to play.  Let loose a little, play pretend, tell jokes, and make people laugh!

Find the flow!

hannah-olinger-549282-unsplashDo something you love at just the right amount of challenge so that it captures your attention, time disappears and you get lost in it.  Research shows that this state of “flow” improves your emotional regulation and your productivity. You may experience more confidence, self esteem and find more meaning in life.

Experience Awe

hans-veth-402052-unsplashWe experience awe when we encounter something so vast and exceptional that we struggle to comprehend it. It can be seeing the starry sky from the desert on a clear night, watching Niagra Falls, standing on a mountaintop, encountering a breathtaking work of art, or watching someone display Olympian skills that surpass our imagination. The positive emotions experienced through awe can promote health and well being. 

Whether or not we are moms, many of us are caregivers of some sort and could derive happiness and long term benefits from these five experiences.




Parenting by Heart

Inside a heart the words love 24 hrs
Photo by Wyron A on Unsplash

How do the choices you make every day as a parent align with your goals for your child, for your family life?

I was still in the parking lot when my distressed daughter called me. One of her costumes had not made the trip with her to the theater for the final dress rehearsal of her upcoming dance recital. We lived 30 miles away, and had just slogged our way through rush hour traffic to get there. I had plans to eat dinner with local friends and didn’t want to cancel for this.

Inventorying the choices, I couldn’t help but register the various parent voices and opinions that exist in the parent-sphere. I thought about the parenting paradigm of not helping, letting the child deal with the consequences as a learning experience.

What am I enabling if I go home and get her costume?

Why not let the child learn to remember by negative example?

Was I hovering and protecting too much if I got her costume for her?

Road sign showing a choice of left or right turns
Photo by Pablo García Saldaña via Unsplash

Years ago, as a new mom holding my infant daughter, I had the realization that what I most wanted for her was to learn to trust herself. I knew that meant cultivating that trait or skill within myself first.

So, that’s what I did.

After some disappointment, heavy sighing, and hearing all the arguments in my head, I decided to follow my instinct. I told my friends I’d be late for dinner, and got back on the highway. (Thank you friends for waiting for me!)

Later that evening, in the car ride home, my daughter thanked me and said that it made her feel good that I had helped her. It made her want to reciprocate.

That’s when I understood what my instinct had meant. I had lived my values of kindness and compassion in the way I treated my distressed daughter. Listening to her, I knew that for who my daughter is at this moment, for who I am right now, I did what felt right. Hopefully, she will remember the event as a positive example of caring and kindness.

By now, you probably have an idea of what you would done in a similar scenario with your child.

How would your choice have aligned with your goals for your child, your self, your family? What would feel right to you?

Would you like an opportunity to reflect on your values, and how to align your parenting goals with them? Join us for our next webinar, or contact me for a complimentary coaching session.  


Holy Work

Image of a detail from the painting Michaelangelo's Creation of Adam that shows their forefingers almost touching. God's finger is reaching forward, Adam's seems to be a little bit lifted, but the wrist is limp.


Do you experience moments that transcend the normal every day and could be considered holy in their own kind of way? Where? How?

The ancient tabernacle as described in the Bible had an outer courtyard, then a structure that had within it the smaller Holy of Holies.

The Israelites gathered in the courtyard, the priests could enter the structure and only the High Priest could enter the holy of holies on Yom Kippur. The more intimate the space, the holier the space. And the holiest of holies was the priest alone with God.

I’ve been wondering if the Biblical tabernacle could be a metaphor for our body and the holy of holies the intimacy of our own heart. Our outer surfaces, like the outer courtyard, interact with our environment and the people we meet and greet each day. They are our first step of interaction. Within us we have the torso that houses all of the important organs. Could this be like the structure inside the courtyard? Then within the structure, there is an ark, within that ark God’s word. Could our heart be that core within the ribcage within the torso?

There are many people I enjoy seeing and who see my outer surfaces. A smaller number of people who hear more of my inner thoughts and feelings, then a unique few with whom I open the intimacy of my heart. When there is someone with me listening, present and caring as I open the depths of my heart, it can feel quite divine. I transcend the everyday, when I connect with another person one heart to another.

As a coach, I have the honor of being present with people as they move through the layers of their own being towards discovery and shifts that open the world for them, empowering them and enabling them to see new possibilities. Inevitably, it moves me as well closer to my own Holy of Holies.

It is a holy moment to be in the space with someone when they have such huge revelations about things that are so intimate to them.

Can you imagine an intimate space that feels sacred to you?

What Drives You?

Damn Yankee's Joe Hardy singing Good Bye, Old Girl

What choices have you made that followed your deepest desires?

How does that effect the way that you live?

When I was a young child, my dad took us to see Damn Yankees at the dinner theater just a few miles from our home. It was the first live show I ever saw, and one that launched a life of longing for the stage.

The show gave me a feeling of floating and soaring and I distinctly remember the private elated feeling I had humming to myself while walking along the wall of the lobby in my white knitted poncho with stripes at the bottom that my great Aunt Mary had made for me.

The songs still evoke vivid memories from seeing the show. Echoes of images from seeing the show then have lingered longer than any memory of seeing the 1994 revival on Broadway have.

More than any images, I have physical, visceral emotional memories of how certain songs, or energies made me feel.

Decades later, cast in a local production, I make sure to be back stage when Joe transforms from middle aged man to young baseball hero and rushes onto stage singing the end of “Goodbye Old Girl.” He has sold his soul to the devil for a chance to live his dream as a baseball hero and bring his team to victory against the legendary Yankees of the 1950’s. The rush of youthful energy full of anticipation and possibilities that young Joe brings on stage with him touches the 7 year old child in me whose heart opened wider that it ever had hearing that song for the first time.

Middle aged Joe Boyd as young Joe Hardy, gets to live his dream. He in facts finds a way to live his dream and reunite with his wife, safe from the devil’s domain. Listening backstage again to this song, I felt a kinship with the longing and the dream, and this time, a deep affinity with Joe Boyd and his commitment to his wife. My life has always been a tug of war between my visceral need to connect with people through the arts to express myself on stage in song, dance and theater, and my need to feel connected and close to family, friends, and communities.

Only in a work of fiction does a character get to live the different drives in such a way that finishes neatly like a present with a bow on top or with a big heartwarming finale.

In life, we feel tension between our desires, our sense of responsibility, our wants and all the “should’s” that we learn.

How many of us suppress our dreams and desires and do what we are supposed to do instead?

What would it look like if we could feel as free as Joe Hardy when he finishes that song to bring our energy, enthusiasm and desires into the way we live our lives?

How might following our desires change the way that we live?